fuck me: on sex, sexuality, shame and romantic rights.


this is the first drawing in what i consider to be my tentatively titled “romantic rights” series. in case you couldn’t tell from the previous pieces, every piece in the series is based on stills from pornography.

as i grow as both an artist and a person, i’ve had to continually reconcile my beliefs with what society at large deems “acceptable”. in particular, sex still has this stigma of being a taboo subject of discussion. sure, everyone talks about it with their friends, but at large, society would rather have a twelve year old witness the graphic violence of a slasher flick than let that same twelve year old watch a pg-13 sex scene.

sex is a vital part of the human condition, and instead of accepting and celebrating it, we look upon it with shame, disgust, talk about it in hushed whispers, and repress our natural urges. there of course has to be control of our “base” urges in order for society to function, but we have done more than control it. Despite knowing that “sex sells” and being surrounded by hypersexualized imagery everywhere we are still taught to repress our sexuality. we relegate sex to the realm of “sin” and consider sexual thoughts base, vile, and wrong. we engage in slut shaming, marking any woman who openly and happily enjoys sex as a slut, harlot, succubus, and whore while simultaneously celebrating male sexuality and surrounding them with models that tell them to engage in sexual activity.

it’s a problem that ties into a larger societal problem of breaking from what is deemed acceptable and moral in a world that is constantly changing, within a culture that cannot adapt fast enough. it’s also indicative of a larger patriarchal system, but that’s a story for another time.

what i’m aiming to do with this series is celebrate sexuality, with all it’s nuances and forms. i aim to bring a vision that represents both what is beautiful and repulsive about sex. there is a sensuality and beauty to the human body, and a grace and fluidity that occurs between two people engaged in sex. even within the context of the admittedly male dominated pornography industry, which bases itself primarily around the objectification of models,  that aspect makes itself known in brief, beautiful moments; true emotion shines through in an amateur video, or a model’s personality controls the scene.

in any scenario, i’ll be taking these scenes and developing them into a series of expressive and anonymous renderings. i make no promise to represent the full spectrum of sexual desires and activities. these are simply compositions that struck me, or scenes that i personally find enjoyable.

in the end, it’s all about what pleases you.

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